In the many dating applications, it is not always easy to sort through the profiles. Coach Bénédicte Ann gives us some tips for finding the rare pearl 2.0. The Leenkus editorial staff makes the point. On your marks, get set… Match!
Online dating: I’m doing a casting!
If your type is tall, dark-haired people with brown eyes, why match with a blond, green-eyed football fan? Indeed, registering on a dating application is a bit like shopping. We hesitate not to be demanding on what we really want.
So, before getting into the match ring, “we make a list of criteria: physical, geographical distance, areas of interest, non-smoker, for one night or for life…”, explains Ann.
Be on the same wavelength !
Online dating: “What are you looking for in this app?” From now on, this is certainly the question that will determine the rest of your discussions. So if you don’t want the same thing, it’s better to let it go.
What’s the point of persisting if you don’t take the same path? Our specialist insists on the importance of this question: “It is information that should not be overlooked and that we must have from the start! “. Also, this is the time to find out if he lives alone, if he has children or a roommate to follow up or not.
The art of knowing how to telephone!
To avoid falling into the trap of messages… We first take our phone and then dial our number and we start. According to Bénédicte Ann, hearing his voice is important: “You will know at first if he has a beautiful voice and casually, it is important. Then you will know if he is speaking correctly and above all you will be able to pay attention to any blanks that there may be”.
Still according to the professional, these few seconds of silence say a lot, especially they come after a question such as “Do you live alone? “, ” you are single ? “… Also, hearing it will let you know if you actually want to follow up with a first meeting.
The first face-to-face meeting!
A man who takes his time to propose a first face-to-face meeting “necessarily has a harem of women! “. “When I see him, what do I do? », « I give him a kiss? », « I let him speak first? », « Am I on time or five minutes late? » …
So many questions that we ask ourselves before a first meeting. The professional advises to play the natural card with a big smile and “let him go: do you recognize me well? “. Above all, keep in mind that if you’ve matched, it’s because he likes you. “Listen to what your body is telling you in front of him. It’s important because it says a lot about what happens next.”
What do we talk about for a first meeting?
First meeting: we talk about everything, but above all, we take the opportunity to find out how long he has been single. And if he got over it and why the relationship ended. “A man who talks about his ex for more than a minute is probably still thinking about her,” says the expert.
