Why do couples argue?
“A healthy argument is caused by differing points of view or a trivial slight and can be easily resolved with an apology. An unhealthy argument is about something that can’t be changed or something petty just to cause tension and exert negative power over the other person,” Margaux Cassuto.
Indeed, any couple that lasts knows that differences of opinion are pretty much guaranteed. Indeed, it makes sense that couples who are willing to confront each other and accept their differences feel much closer than those who choose to sweep all their feelings under the rug. Discover expert advice.
1. Couple: take a moment to pause
Indeed, couples who argue productively tend to be more self-aware. They know that nothing good comes out of impulse. Instead, they take a step back before responding.
Moreover, taking a second to breathe allows you not to react too quickly and to approach the problem more calmly.
2. Speak without shouting and take turns!
Indeed, couples who master the art of arguing slow things down. This by approaching difficult conversations with a soft and comforting tone. Indeed, they let one person speak while the other listens.
Now, having the intention to speak respectfully early in the argument and calmly greatly increases the chances of a successful outcome. While confrontations are more difficult to deal with.
3. Pay attention to non-verbal cues
For example, rolling your eyes during an argument is not only rude…it will also make your partner feel like you don’t care and aren’t worth listening to.
So instead, make your body’s actions reflect how you really feel about your partner. In fact, even things that are subtly dismissive can have an impact!
4. Set Ground Rules
From the beginning of your relationship, establish ground rules to avoid dirty talk or saying something you regret during an argument. “We won’t interrupt” “we will listen to each other” “we will be open to each other’s point of view “It’s not about being right”. “We will listen to each other” “we will find common ground” “our end goal should be to solve the problem.”
5. A learning opportunity
To gain a new understanding of yourself and your partner… Think of taking the argument as a learning opportunity instead. Extracting information and ideas from conflict will allow you both to grow.
In fact, when a problem occurs, it’s usually because something is wrong. So instead of getting defensive and shifting blame… examine yourself first and see if there is anything you can improve on.
